My entire life, all of my friendships have been pivoted around alcohol - not just a couple of drinks with dinner or beer or two with a movie, but meeting up with the express and sole purpose of getting hammered. The problem is, this is considered normal behaviour in the UK, especially before you've settled down. Alcohol and alcohol abuse are extremely tolerated, to the point of Superior mature women actively encouraged, in British culture, and I just don't know anyone who has meaningful interests outside of going out drinking - the two people do have - watching sports and going to live music gigs - again pivot around consuming large quantities of alcohol.
I have also found that yo you stop drinking, you find you don't really get on with your friends - that you created a facsimile of friendship by getting drunk together. Sit there sober - or worse, you sober and them drinking - and there's really no meaningful connection there.
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I'm sure other people must have run into this problem, especially British people, so my question is How on earth do you find friends who don't Looking to treat a new friend to a drink or movie, or at the very least don't drink as a form of entertainment?
I'm in the UK so I understand what Need a Morehead City female for tomorrow saying. I think for me it got to the point that I would rather have fewer friends and less socialising if it meant I did not have to put up with the agony that drinking brought me. I don't feel like I am missing out because I would do anything to not have to go back to hell that I suffered when I was drinking.
I also have found that I like myself a lot better now I have given the booze and I can spend time with myself on my own. It does make me angry that everything is celebrated with a drink. Its friday, lets have a drink.
Its my birthday, anyone for a drink? Lets celebrate a nice new year by getting inebriated and spend the next day throwing up! I have attended a few AA meetings and Looking to treat a new friend to a drink or movie visit here everyday. I have to say that some of the coolest, most interesting people I know don't drink.
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Welcome to our family it is nice to have you here. Luckily I already had a number of friends who don't drink, so my transition's been easier than for a lot of people. But when I stopped drinking, I started noticing that far fewer people than I thought were getting very drunk even at drinking events Whereas before I'd be talking to the other drunk folks at the party, now I end up talking to the other more-or-less sober folks, and there are more of them than I expected there to be.
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When I go out to those places there are plenty of people that only have one or two.
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The world changes when we do. AA is absolutely the best place I know of to meet these people, yet most of my friends these days are outside of the program. I didn't hunt the non drinkers out either, I believe we just start attracting them. Of course that also means that my idea of entertainment these days isn't hanging out in bar, though I'm musician and do that frequently because I play a lot. My Looking to treat a new friend to a drink or movie has about 5 glasses of wine a year, on average.
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And you get to remember everything too! This is where AA, Smart Recovery, etc, come in handy. I have made lasting friendships in AA. And it is so cool that they do not drink!! There are number of choices here Platypus and it's up to you how you go about it. It is a hard transition getting sober and it takes a bit of adjustment. I too noticed that a lot of people I knew didn't drink as much as I thought they did.
One girl who appears to be a massive partier admitted she feels sick if she ever drinks more than a pint of beer, and a close friend of mine would always talk big about going out for cocktails and then sit there drinking coke all night. That may not be what your friends New hot doc at Tacoma up to however. I found I can tolerate going out with people who don't drink too much but as soon as I encounter someone who drank like I did I find it hard to be Looking to treat a new friend to a drink or movie them.
I don't know how he does and it's not something I would enjoy but each to their own. One thing I did with friends was to try and transform our friendships.
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It is sad and I feel a little judgemental move not seeing them but they are just trrat good for me anymore. My social life is still a work in progress but I meet lots of new people out walking the dog and we have much more meaningful conversations than I ever did with my drinking friends. Life seems much more purposeful in general now and I am starting to want to do stuff that would have just interfered with my drinking time Anybody looking to fuck.
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